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                                                                      Jolanta A. Zinevich, L.L.C.
Attorney at Law ​​​


  • Engage in mediation before litigation.
  • Go to counseling. 
  • Understand that time spent with the children will lessen
  • Understand that the expenses of two people living apart will be greater than two people living together. 
  • Understand that finances and parenting issues are separate issues.  
  • Consider sharing holidays as opposed to alternating holidays.
  • Plan and consult with the other parent in advance of activities for the children. 
  • Observe time schedules regarding the children strictly, including the time schedules for exchanges of the children. 
  • Try to be flexible regarding visitation times for the other parent. 
  • Do whatever is necessary to resolve any angry feelings toward your ex-spouse. 
  • Do work with the other parent to present a united front when handling any problems relating to the children. 
  • Take the children to a therapist if psychological adjustment appears problematic. 
  • Tell the children early and often that they are loved by both parents, that the divorce is not their fault, and that they are not getting a divorce from either parent. 
  • Provide the children with an emotional environment that allows them to continue to love and spend time with the other parent. 
  • Encourage a good relationship between the children and the other parent’s extended family
  • Encourage the children to remember the other parent on special occasions, allowing and encouraging them to telephone on a reasonable basis and at special occasions. 
  • Use discretion regarding the time and frequency of calls to the children. 
  • Recognize that children may feel powerless and helpless and be aware that children may feel insecure and exhibit regressive behavior. 
  • Be a role model for the children. 
  • Put aside any differences with the other parent long enough to allow both parents to attend school conferences together. 
  • Promptly inform and consult with the other parent about the emergency medical, surgical, dental, institutional, or mental healthcare of the children
  • Communicate with the other parent openly, honestly, and regularly to avoid misunderstandings harmful to the children. 
  • Make plans directly with the other parent; do not make plans through the children. Maintain the same set of rules in both houses (to the extent possible). 


Don’t move more often than is necessary. 

Don’t allow children to foster feelings of guilt over the divorce process. 

When in front of the children, don’t take sides or take issue with decisions or actions made by the other parent. 

Don’t allow the children to be in the middle of arranging or canceling visitation. 

Don’t communicate with the other parent through the children. 

Don’t send the check with the children (even in a sealed envelope), and don’t hand the check to the other parent in front of the children. 

Don’t degrade, or argue with, the other parent in the presence of the children. 

If you are the non-primary residential parent, don’t arrive late or not at all for visitation. 

Don’t discuss any of the financial aspects of the divorce process (i.e., support, maintenance, arrearages) with the children or in the presence of the children. 

Don’t believe everything the children say about the other parent. 

Before the divorce, don’t introduce the children to a person whom you are dating, and after the divorce, do so only with great discretion. 

Don’t ever allow children of any age to observe sexually intimate behavior. 

Except in very unusual circumstances, don’t allow the children to sleep in the same bed with you.

Don’t ask the children to keep secrets from the ex-spouse.